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7 Relationship Mistakes Even the Smartest Couples Make

Wednesday, September 28th, 2011 | Q&A, Uncategorized | No Comments

I always believe it is important to discuss things with your future spouse before they become an issue…less chance for a heated argument - and more opportunity to discover where you’re both coming from. My husband & I sometimes teach marriage prep classes so I’m a big believer in discuss, discuss, discuss….but just in case you haven’t discussed…here are some helpful tips from our friends at thenest.com:

Mistake #1: Not Dealing With Debt

Newsflash: Money is the #1 thing couples fight about. Fess up about your personal debt — because for better or worse — and then set up a financial game plan.

Mistake #2: Alienating Your Friends

Friends are key for a successful marriage, so tag along on those girls’ nights out. Just because you’re not guy-hunting doesn’t mean you can’t be a supportive wingwoman.

Mistake #3: Not Having Enough Sex

Over 60 percent of newlyweds we surveyed were already in a sex rut! Yeah, you’re busy, but that’s not a good enough excuse not to get busy. Initiate sex, even if you don’t feel like it or have to schedule it. If you get in the habit of having it, you’ll start wanting it (and liking it) more.

Mistake #4: Letting Yourself Go

So you put on the “newlywed nine.” Big whoop…you’ve already found your mate, right? Wrong! Make a plan to get fit together or at least respect each other’s goals.

Mistake #5: Outlawing the In-Laws

Fifty percent of couples we surveyed have a problematic relationship with their in-laws (ya think?). Manage expectations, like saying you’ll call on Sundays so his mom doesn’t guilt-trip you for ignoring her weekday messages. Even if your spouse is bitching about his family, resist the urge to chime in. It’ll bite you in the butt later.

Mistake #6: Crazy Fighting

Getting hitched isn’t a free pass to hit below the belt (sorry!). When you’re getting really heated, walk away to cool down for a few minutes.

Mistake #7: Becoming Baby-Obsessed

It’s easy to fixate on that next big step, but chill out — the average couple has a kid within three years of marriage. So really, why rush? Savor the moments (and vacations you can take!) now…when you won’t have to be waking up for a brutal 4 a.m. feeding.

http://ideas.thenest.com/love-and-sex-advice/newlywed-central/articles/7-mistakes-even-the-smartest-newlyweds-make.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&cm_cat=Nest&cm_pla=Newsletter&cm_ite=September%2028,%202011

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{ jani + colin }

Friday, September 9th, 2011 | testimonials | No Comments

Earlier this week I received one of the most lovely & thoughtful thank you messages…they’re writers so I guess I shouldn’t have expected anything less. I loved working with you both…all good things! xo

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Hi Lisa,

Now that we’re back from honeymoon and things have started to settle down a bit, Jani and I just wanted to drop you a line and let you know how much we appreciated everything you’ve done for us this past year…Your knowledge and confidence during the planning sessions and your willingness to listen to whatever ideas we had to incorporate into the ceremony and reception really helped keep everything on an even keel and enabled us to have a truly amazing day, without undue worry or panic.

As for the day itself.[...] Lisa, we were stunned when we first walked into the banquet room to see how it looked. It’s amazing that you could have created that space the way you did: when we first saw it, Jani said “it’s like she saw everything I wanted in my mind and made it better”. While the services provided by our many vendors were all excellent, we recognize that many of them came with your recommendations and that your co-ordination of all those services is what enabled the vendors to help give us the spectacular day we had dreamed of.

We naturally hear a lot of talk about how “it’s not about the wedding but about the marriage that follows” but let’s be perfectly honest: the wedding is the first, and sometimes the only, chance families get to really learn to know one another and to carry on a celebration in public and affirm both to the married couple and to each other that they are all together a family and a community. The marriage doesn’t happen in isolation and these people who are so important to us now feel even closer and more invested in our lives because they got to come together and share this spectacular event.

Lisa, we want to thank you for helping bring our families together and for helping us host an event that will be talked about for the rest of our lives. Our guests bawled all through the ceremony, they bonded during the reception, delighted in the party, and a number of them have made the effort to let us know they thought this the best, or among the best, wedding they ever attended. While we know our charms have a lot to do with this (ha), we also recognize that without your help, the wedding day could not have been as amazing as it was. Once more, thank you.[...]

Yours truly and sincerely,

Jani and Colin

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{ style me pretty }

Thursday, September 8th, 2011 | media, weddings | No Comments

One of our recent weddings is now being featured on Style Me Pretty

http://www.stylemepretty.com/2011/09/06/central-alberta-wedding-by-eternal-reflections-photography-the-wedding-planner/

Radelle Jensen of Eternal Reflections took such gorgeous shots…

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{ when wordsmiths wed }

Saturday, September 3rd, 2011 | trends, weddings | No Comments

We had a lovely wedding two weeks ago. It was very quirky & unique while still being elegant & inviting. Every element had lots of character…just like the bride & groom!

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The linens were pewter pintuck with accents in 2 shades of teal. As both of them are writers and surround themselves with writers and poets I decided each table should be adorned with a stack of old books.
There were candelabras surrounded by small floral posies in mason jars, and large posies in mason jars surrounded by votives in small mason jars.
Both the cocktail area and the dance floor were adorned with dozens of paper lanterns in hot pink, red & yellow, and all the uplighting in the room was hot pink & red.

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The tables were named for their favorite writers.

Their guests were treated to a sumptuous dinner…

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and a very literate wedding cake!

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One of my favorite parts was the use of their collection of vintage typewriters.

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The typewriters were used instead of a guest book. It was a huge hit and I’m sure they will have lots of interesting prose…especially as the evening progressed!

Best wishes! xo

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{ sasha + pat }

Thursday, September 1st, 2011 | testimonials | No Comments

We received this thank you card from Sasha + Pat today. They had the chic burlap tent wedding in July.

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“Lisa,

Thank you so much for making our wedding so beautiful

♥ Sasha & Pat”

You’re so welcome! It was a pleasure working with you…and yay for no tornadoes!
xoLisa.

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