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Intimate or Immense…what’s a bride to do with the guest list?

Wednesday, September 9th, 2009 | etiquette, media, Q&A | No Comments

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ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN THE CALGARY HERALD, MAY 2005, IN LISA HANSLIP’S COLUMN “I DO, BUT DON’T…”

Q: We chose a very small venue to have our reception and it was very difficult to get our guest list small enough. We all had to cut quite a few people we would love to be there – but it simply won’t accommodate any more people. A few of our friends (and our parents’ friends) are quite offended and upset about not being invited. How should we handle this?

A: When planning a wedding, making the guest list is frequently fraught with problems. The process of cutting down the guest list is, at best, the cause of making some hard choices, and at worst, absolutely agonizing. Most of the time it can be an emotional minefield for everyone:
• Mom, I don’t care if you envisioned my wedding having 400 guests – we only want 35.
• What do you mean you want to invite your ex-girlfriend?
• No Dad, I don’t want all 47 of my first cousins at the wedding.
• You mean I can’t invite 14 people from the office, what will I tell them?

You need to decide what is important – the venue or the number of guests. Have you always dreamed of an intimate wedding or is a huge bash more your style? If you have your heart set on a small wedding you have to be a little ruthless with the guest list.

If you’re having a wedding for 350 people – your friends have a right to be offended by their omission from the guest list – however, if you’ve chosen a venue that only holds 50 people – they should understand the size constraints – that you simply don’t have the option of including everyone. It is perfectly appropriate to host a wedding for just immediate family and a few close friends.

Remember a few things which should help before making the final decisions: Your wedding is not an opportunity for your parents to get payback for all the wedding gifts they’ve given and weddings they’ve attended over the years. It is also decidedly not an occasion for them to fulfill their social obligations (nothing makes a bride feel more special on her wedding day than a room full of her father’s business associates). It is also not appropriate to send invitations to a bunch of people you know will not be able to attend – it looks like a blatant plea for gifts.

In an ideal world, you could have your ideal wedding and everyone you’ve ever met could be invited – but unless heisting a Brinks truck is in your immediate future – your friends and family need to be understanding of the type of wedding you and your fiancé have chosen.

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Perfection in the Park

Wednesday, September 2nd, 2009 | testimonials, trends, weddings | No Comments

This is the scrumptious wedding that Kim executed a couple of weeks ago.schultz-tisdale-014

 

 

 

 

 

 From the standing ceremony in the park to the elegant damask paired with yummy reds & oranges and black candelabras it was exactly what the bride & groom had dreamed of (with Kim’s expert design input, of course!). 

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This was the email waiting for Kim a couple of days after the wedding:

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Hello Kim,
We can’t thank-you enough for how amazing everything turned out, I’m still in awe mode from all of it. Every couple I know that gets married will be referred to you because I want them to experience a wedding day like ours :)
Thanks again
Sincerely, Nicole
The bride screamed & jumped up & down for so long when she got her sneak peak of the ballroom the photographer felt compelled to come in & document it…we can’t wait to see the photos!

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