{"id":910,"date":"2012-06-26T22:00:44","date_gmt":"2012-06-27T05:00:44","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/?p=910"},"modified":"2012-06-26T22:02:37","modified_gmt":"2012-06-27T05:02:37","slug":"5-quick-tips-for-a-great-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/2012\/06\/5-quick-tips-for-a-great-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"{ 5 &#8220;quickie&#8221; hints for a great relationship }"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Thanks to our friends at thenest.com here are 5 great suggestions to keep your relationship fabulous &#8211; before and after the wedding&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-911\" title=\"jun12-la-feet\" src=\"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/wp-content\/2012\/06\/jun12-la-feet-300x225.jpg\" alt=\"jun12-la-feet\" width=\"300\" height=\"225\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/wp-content\/2012\/06\/jun12-la-feet-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/wp-content\/2012\/06\/jun12-la-feet-1024x768.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>The New Quickies: 5 Simple Tricks for a Better Relationship<\/p>\n<p>Looking for an instant love boost? Forget the fireworks, Kama Sutra and grand gestures. Sometimes, the obvious is all you need to make your relationship feel fresh again.<\/p>\n<p>The Quickie: Making small, unexpected gestures<br \/>\n\u00a0<br \/>\nWhy It Works:<br \/>\nSometimes the best validation that you&#8217;re loved and appreciated is when you experience a gesture that proves your partner is always thinking of you. Yes, planning a romantic night on the town takes thought and is always appreciated. But buying your husband a red velvet cupcake, just because you happened to walk by a bakery, see it in the window and know he would love it, will really make an impression. It&#8217;s that for-no-real-reason feeling that makes the act mean so much.<\/p>\n<p>The Quickie: Doing something your partner always does<br \/>\n\u00a0<br \/>\nWhy It Works: Sure, when you divided up the chores, you agreed that he would take out the trash and you would do the dishes. But every once in a while, when he\u2019s super-slammed at work, rather than nagging him for not noticing the overflowing trash can, take it out for him. When you love someone, you pitch in &#8212; even when you&#8217;re not asked (or it&#8217;s technically not your turn). Small gestures to make each other&#8217;s lives better remind you why you put up with his stinky feet, or her snoring, in the first place. Plus, giving your mate a break means he has one less item to worry about, and the more relaxed he is, the easier it will be for you to appreciate each other&#8217;s company (wink, wink).<br \/>\nThe Quickie: Letting her (or him) breathe<br \/>\n\u00a0<br \/>\nWhy It Works: Because you&#8217;ll be so much more excited to see each other! Having someone to come home to is a definite plus to being in a relationship. But sometimes &#8212; just sometimes &#8212; it would be nice to walk into an empty house and, perhaps, slip into a lavender-scented bath or chill out in front of the TV without having to speak. Even couples that are joined at the hip sometimes require a little alone time &#8212; not to brood or escape, but to refresh. Perhaps you don&#8217;t understand the need for solo moments. But if your husband enjoys winding down from a long day with only himself and maybe the dog for company, or your wife likes to be alone with her thoughts on Sunday mornings, give him or her that space &#8212; guilt free. Make plans to meet a friend for brunch or make a date with your personal trainer for Sunday morning, conveniently come home late from work one night, or run errands alone one afternoon. You don&#8217;t need much distance to make the heart grow fonder, but a little goes a long way.<br \/>\nThe Quickie: Writing it down<br \/>\n\u00a0<br \/>\nWhy It Works: Let&#8217;s face it: Telling your mate how much she means to you can feel kind of sappy or trite. But expressing your feelings, even when you assume they&#8217;re known, is key in long-term relationships. Otherwise, you risk falling into &#8220;taking each other for granted&#8221; syndrome. Now, we&#8217;re not suggesting you start penning long love letters (or emails). But an &#8220;I love you&#8221; written on the dry-erase board in the kitchen, or a &#8220;Have a great day!&#8221; Post-it left on the bathroom mirror, is all it takes to let your other half know you cared enough to take the time to write it down.<br \/>\nThe Quickie: Saying &#8220;yes&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>Why It works: Agreeing to try something you always veto, or joining your partner for something you normally try to get out of (like your two-year-old niece-in-law&#8217;s birthday party), shows you are listening to what your significant other wants and are willing to put your partner\u2019s needs first. Now, we&#8217;re not suggesting you go out of your way to do something you truly despise &#8212; no one benefits if you&#8217;re visibly miserable the entire time. But a &#8220;yes&#8221; to a fairly innocuous, temporary thing can still mean a lot. For example, let him flip to the game and keep watching &#8212; and don&#8217;t get off the couch. Or maybe have sex the next time you&#8217;re tired but she&#8217;s raring to go. Seeing how happy these small gestures can make your partner should make you feel good and inspire you to do them more often. Plus, they&#8217;ll probably inspire your partner to start doing the same, and soon enough, instead of arguing over who gets to man the remote, you&#8217;ll notice you&#8217;re starting to work much more like a team.<br \/>\n<a href=\"http:\/\/ideas.thenest.com\/love-and-sex-advice\/dealing-with-relationship-issues\/slideshows\/the-new-quickies.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&amp;cm_cat=Nest&amp;cm_pla=Newsletter&amp;cm_ite=June%2026,%202012&amp;MsdVisit=1\">http:\/\/ideas.thenest.com\/love-and-sex-advice\/dealing-with-relationship-issues\/slideshows\/the-new-quickies.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&amp;cm_cat=Nest&amp;cm_pla=Newsletter&amp;cm_ite=June%2026,%202012&amp;MsdVisit=1<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Thanks to our friends at thenest.com here are 5 great suggestions to keep your relationship fabulous &#8211; before and after the wedding&#8230; The New Quickies: 5 Simple Tricks for a Better Relationship Looking for an instant love boost? Forget the fireworks, Kama Sutra and grand gestures. 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