{"id":858,"date":"2012-01-21T09:24:52","date_gmt":"2012-01-21T16:24:52","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/2012\/01\/the-etiquette-of-gift-registries-2\/"},"modified":"2012-01-21T09:48:39","modified_gmt":"2012-01-21T16:48:39","slug":"the-etiquette-of-gift-registries-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/2012\/01\/the-etiquette-of-gift-registries-2\/","title":{"rendered":"the etiquette of gift registries"},"content":{"rendered":"

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN THE CALGARY HERALD, FEBRUARY 2005, IN LISA HANSLIP\u2019S COLUMN \u201cI DO, BUT DON\u2019T\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

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Q: We recently went to register for our wedding and the store clerk offered us registry enclosure cards to include in our invitations. Is this acceptable? We were also a bit unsure what to register for. Help!<\/span><\/p>\n

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<\/span>A: No, no, a thousand times, no! It may seem helpful, but it is never acceptable to enclose a registry notice or gift wish list with your invitation. Never. Ever.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>One of the major etiquette dangers is the method of informing your guests <\/span>about your registries. The stores themselves help perpetuate this\u00a0etiquette no-no by offering you the offensive invitation enclosures.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Your gift registry can be one of the most fun aspects of planning your <\/span>wedding (\u201dHere, honey, just point this gun at things and voila, they\u2019re on\u00a0our wish list!\u201d) but it can also prove to be an etiquette minefield.<\/p>\n

<\/span>The first major issue is the registry itself. Today\u2019s engaged couples <\/span>often have established households of their own, so a registry is an\u00a0excellent way for your guests to know what you actually need (Oh look!\u00a0Another toaster! Everyone needs four toasters, don\u2019t they?). Make sure you\u00a0think carefully about what you actually need and make a wish list that is\u00a0agreeable to both you and your partner.<\/p>\n

<\/span>Your guests have different budgets, so register for items in a variety of <\/span>price ranges. You cannot expect all of your guests to spring for that $400\u00a0food processor, or that they will be happy buying you one teaspoon because\u00a0at $100 a piece it is the only thing on your registry they can afford. A\u00a0thoughtful gift registry gives everyone the opportunity to buy you\u00a0something you will love.<\/p>\n

<\/span>These days, it is also perfectly acceptable to register for nontraditional <\/span>items such as hardware, sporting goods, charitable donations, or, yes,\u00a0even the honeymoon. Keep in mind, though, that although lifestyle gifts\u00a0are appropriate, some people are going to prefer giving you something\u00a0tangible.<\/p>\n

<\/span>You may prefer to receive money, which is traditional in many cultures, or <\/span>contributions to your honeymoon fund, but you cannot tell your guests what\u00a0to give you. It is just not polite to request gifts of ANY kind. Giving a\u00a0wedding gift is the socially acceptable thing to do – but no one is really\u00a0obligated to buy you a gift. Informing your guests what kind of gift you\u00a0would like at the same time you are inviting them to your wedding is like\u00a0telling them the gift is more important than their attendance.<\/p>\n

<\/span>The way to let people know where you\u2019re registered is via word of mouth.<\/span><\/p>\n

<\/span>Make sure your bridal party and family know where you are registered or if <\/span>you have a preference for a more non-traditional gift. Then you have to\u00a0wait until someone asks where you are registered, and just cross your\u00a0fingers!<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN THE CALGARY HERALD, FEBRUARY 2005, IN LISA HANSLIP\u2019S COLUMN \u201cI DO, BUT DON\u2019T\u2026\u201d Q: We recently went to register for our wedding and the store clerk offered us registry enclosure cards to include in our invitations. Is this acceptable? We were also a bit unsure what to register for. Help! A: No, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,7],"tags":[45,122,261,260,15,226,47],"class_list":["post-858","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-etiquette","category-qa","tag-calgary-herald","tag-calgary-wedding-planner","tag-etiquette-expert","tag-gift-registry-etiquette","tag-lisa-hanslip","tag-the-wedding-planner-inc","tag-wedding-etiquette"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/858","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=858"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/858\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":861,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/858\/revisions\/861"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=858"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=858"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=858"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}