{"id":105,"date":"2009-02-16T15:57:36","date_gmt":"2009-02-16T22:57:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/?p=105"},"modified":"2009-02-16T15:57:36","modified_gmt":"2009-02-16T22:57:36","slug":"man-of-honour","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/2009\/02\/man-of-honour\/","title":{"rendered":"Man of Honour?!?"},"content":{"rendered":"

ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN THE CALGARY HERALD, MARCH 2005, IN LISA HANSLIP\u2019S COLUMN \u201cI DO, BUT DON\u2019T\u2026\u201d<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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The long road from happy engagement to wedded bliss is paved with potential etiquette faux pas. Wedding planner Lisa Hanslip is here to help you resist your inner Bridezilla along the way. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Q: I\u2019m having a very hard time choosing a maid of honour. I have a few girlfriends that I\u2019m fairly close to, but my very best friend is a guy. We\u2019ve known each other since junior high – and he\u2019s seen me through everything. Would it be weird to choose him instead of a maid of honour? Should he just dress like the groomsmen? Will I give my grandmother a heart attack?<\/span><\/p>\n

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A: Unconventional, yes! Unexpected, you bet! Acceptable, absolutely!<\/span><\/p>\n

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You want your honour attendant – whether it is a maid of honour, matron of honour or man of honour – to be the person to whom you feel closest. You should choose your best friend, the person you want standing beside you on your big day – not the friend that would look best in the bridesmaid dress.<\/span><\/p>\n

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If you choose a man to be your honour attendant – you may opt to eliminate some of the \u201ctypical\u201d duties like hosting your bridal shower, or helping you get into your wedding gown. But the most important part of the job description is being supportive and serving as the legal witness to your marriage. <\/span><\/p>\n

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Choosing your attendants can often be a difficult process – for the bride and the groom. There may be family politics involved. Or, like some, you may have served as a bridesmaid for a dozen of your friends and family members and feel obligated to ask them to stand up for you in return. Well\u2026don\u2019t. <\/span><\/p>\n

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This is your day – and although it is impossible to accommodate everyone\u2019s wishes – you can\u2019t make your choices based on not wanting to offend someone. You can\u2019t make everyone happy – nor can you make everyone your bridesmaid – so just choose those you are currently closest to. You can always assign tasks – like doing a reading or taking care of the guest book – to those you want to feel special and included in your wedding but aren\u2019t in the bridal party.<\/span><\/p>\n

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When you decide on the attire for your attendants, he can wear a suit or tuxedo and coordinate his tie to the other bridesmaids. This scenario also holds true for the groom. It is also perfectly acceptable to have a woman be the best \u201cman.\u201d A best \u201cwoman\u201d looks great in a black strapless gown to coordinate with the other groomsmen.<\/span><\/p>\n

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So, feel free to choose your best guy friend or brother to stand up for you at your wedding. Just keep your \u201cman of honour\u201d away from the lavender chiffon and size 11 purple pumps – and your grandmother\u2019s heart should be just fine!<\/span><\/p>\n

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ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN THE CALGARY HERALD, MARCH 2005, IN LISA HANSLIP\u2019S COLUMN \u201cI DO, BUT DON\u2019T\u2026\u201d The long road from happy engagement to wedded bliss is paved with potential etiquette faux pas. Wedding planner Lisa Hanslip is here to help you resist your inner Bridezilla along the way. \u00a0 Q: I\u2019m having a very hard […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[5,10,7,4,6],"tags":[45,15,50,51],"class_list":["post-105","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-etiquette","category-media","category-qa","category-trends","category-weddings","tag-calgary-herald","tag-lisa-hanslip","tag-male-bridesmaid","tag-weddings-calgary"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=105"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":108,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/105\/revisions\/108"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=105"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=105"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.askaweddingplanner.com\/blog\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=105"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}